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Arguing about the same things over and over and not sure what the problem really is? Or maybe you just want to learn more about the state of your partnership The Gottman Assessment, powered by renowned, research-based Gottman Method, can help you evaluate what is really going on in your relationship, and then recommend solutionss proven to strengthen you connection.
Measure relationship happiness
With an overall relationship satisfaction score.
Scientific self-assessment
Measures five key relationship areas: friendship and intimacy, sex and passion, conflict management, shared meaning, and trust and commitment.
100+ research-based questions
Designed to analyze your relationship’s unique strengths and weaknesses.
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Invite your partner for more detailed results.
Once you’ve taken the Assessment, you’re almost there! All your responses are saved and ready to shape your unique roadmap.
Just log into your Gottman Connect account to transition seamlessly. We’ll deduct the price difference from your purchase, use your Assessment responses to shape your program, and guide you through each exercise.
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$69.00 Original price was: $69.00.$39.00Current price is: $39.00.
Loving out Loud! Find the Passion Again. You and your partner must nurture a culture of fondness and admiration to find that spark again. In this all-new series of exercises, activities, and videos, Drs. John and Julie Gottman can show you how to love your partner even better. Upgrade your love life with this research-based series of conversations, skills, and practices designed to enhance the fondness and admiration in your relationship. In this program you will learn:
$79.00 Original price was: $79.00.$49.00Current price is: $49.00.
Learn how to foster intimacy and safety in your relationship and how doing so can lead to amazing sex in the new Gottman Relationship Coach, “Enriching Your Sex Life”. In this never-before-seen series of videos and conversation-starting exercises, Drs. John and Julie Gottman will guide you and your partner through opening up communication around sex, learning your partner’s preferences, exploring sensuality, and building sexual safety in your relationship.
$45.00
Tired of getting into fights and unsure what to do next? Or perhaps you’re curious about which areas of your relationship need improvement?
The all-new Gottman Assessment, powered by the legendary scientific Gottman Method, can help you understand the state of your relationship—and get you the help you need to improve it.
$149.00 Original price was: $149.00.$89.00Current price is: $89.00.
So you just had an argument. Now what? The latest program in the Gottman Relationship Coach, “Making Up After an Argument” includes a step-by-step exercise to help you and your partner process an argument and discover what you were really fighting about. In addition to our powerful “Aftermath of a Fight” exercise, “Making Up After an Argument” includes sections and exercises on feeling overloaded, taking effective breaks from conflict, and how to rebuild the lines of communication—even mid-argument.
Solve the mystery of what you and your partner really argue about to restore, repair, and revitalize the communication in your relationship. This new program will help you learn:
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$149.00 Original price was: $149.00.$89.00Current price is: $89.00.
In “Dealing with Conflict” Drs. John and Julie Gottman guide you through a series of exercises, concepts, and communication skills that can truly change your conflict conversations. With these new skills, going from arguing to understanding is possible. Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional.
In this program you will learn:
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$119.00 Original price was: $119.00.$79.00Current price is: $79.00.
Research-based Foundations for a Lifetime of Love. The Gottman Relationship Coach is an inspiring and educational multimedia experience designed to enhance the well-being of relationships. Participants will be guided through research-based tools and communication skills that can transform relationships—all based on the popular Gottman Method. The first program, “How to Make Your Relationship Work”, is now available and includes:
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$149.00 Original price was: $149.00.$99.00Current price is: $99.00.
Do you feel seen, heard, and valued by your partner? One of the many benefits of a happy and healthy relationship is the feeling that you have someone who really “gets” you. But everyone has areas they could improve on, or be more intentional in their relationship. That’s what Feeling Seen and Heard, from the Gottman Relationship Coach, is all about. Learn from Drs. John and Julie Gottman how to be seen and heard, how to become a better listener and how to Turn Towards your partner more often in this series of videos and exercises.
When you show up for your partner, and when you feel seen and heard, your connection will deepen and you can even reduce your stress!
This new program will help you learn:
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$149.00 Original price was: $149.00.$99.00Current price is: $99.00.
You’ve decided to spend forever together. Congratulations! Making a commitment to one another is a time to celebrate and prepare for the new adventure ahead of you. This new journey is one of Trust and Commitment as you forge a path towards lasting love. You’ll have shared goals and new dreams to hope for, and plenty of fun and play. Don’t forget to soak in all the intimacy and romance along the way! So, take each other’s hands and get ready. Whether you’re committing to each other after a long time of casual dating or you’ve just swept each other off your feet, committing to each other is a big step, but don’t worry. With more than 40 years of research into how relationships work, the Gottmans are here to give you the tools you need for happily ever after.
This new program will help you learn:
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$298.00 Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce a new Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Intimacy. With more than 40 years of research into relationships, Drs. John and Julie Gottman are here to share their knowledge with you. Learn from the experts in this new All About Intimacy Gottman Relationship Coach Bundle, which combines three of our most popular products: Loving Out Loud, Feeling Seen and Heard, Enriching Your Sex Life
$298.00 Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs. John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce a new Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Love. With more than 40 years of research into relationships, Drs. John and Julie Gottman are here to share their knowledge with you. Learn from the experts in this new Gottman Relationship Coach Bundle, All About Love, which combines three of our most popular products: “How to Make Your Relationship Work,” “Loving Out Loud,” and “Building a Life Together.”
$298.00 Original price was: $298.00.$139.00Current price is: $139.00.
Drs John and Julie Gottman are excited to introduce this Gottman Relationship Coach collection, All About Conflict.
The first program, “Dealing with Conflict” teaches the basics of communication in conflict. You will learn which of the problems your relationship faces are solvable, and which you may continue to encounter. If any of these perpetual problems have you stuck, the Gottmans can help you get “unstuck” and understand each other’s perspectives. “Dealing with Conflict” helps prepare you for the regular, inevitable moments of friction that are bound to arise in any relationship.
The second program, “What to Do After a Fight” teaches how to navigate more difficult arguments and the feelings that come along with them. If “Dealing with Conflict” makes regular communication “smooth sailing,” “What to Do After a Fight” helps you address rough waters to keep your relationship from capsizing. Often, more serious arguments arise because they touch on values and beliefs one or both of you hold dear. Explore what’s underneath the storm with the game-changing exercises contained in this program.
NOTE: If you already purchased “Dealing with Conflict” or “Making Up After an Argument” individually and want to take advantage of this special offer, make sure you are logged in to your Gottman Connect account and the price difference will automatically be deducted from your purchase of the second program.
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The Adviser is an unparalleled approach to relationship wellness. Measure your relationship health with a research-based self-assessment, analyze key areas of your partnership to identify your strengths and weaknesses, then start a tailored, step-by-step digital program proven to heal and strengthen your connection. Improve your relationship on your schedule, from anywhere.
The Gottman Relationship Coach is a self-guided program based on the popular Gottman Method. the Coach is an inspiring and educational multimedia experience created and designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman to enhance and transform the wellbeing of relationships. Participants access research-based relationship skill-building tools in a series of interactive videos, exercises, and card decks designed to inspire healthy communication and deeper connection.
Whereas the Gottman Relationship Coach products address specific areas of your relationship you select, the Gottman Relationship Adviser is a complete relationship wellness program. The Adviser takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship by combining assessment and solutions all in one place. Start with a checkup to find out what you can improve, then follow a personalized, step-by-step plan for your relationship.
The Adviser uses the Sound Relationship House Theory, created by world-renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Sound Relationship House is a foundational concept within Gottman Method and has been used successfully with hundreds of thousands of couples all over the world to help them understand and improve their relationships.
Yes, customers can benefit from taking the Gottman Relationship Adviser. The Gottman Relationship Adviser will give you a full snapshot of the state of your relationship based on a detailed self-assessment, then provides recommendations for improvement. You will also get credit for your original purchase at checkout, just login before you check out.
No, you have the option to take the Gottman Relationship Adviser with or without your partner. You can take the Gottman Relationship Adviser alone to learn about yourself and your relationship, or you can invite your partner to take the Adviser as well, even after starting your own self-assessment. After you log in and invite your partner, they can access the Relationship Adviser by registering on Gottman Connect. Once they register, they will have the option to complete the self-assessment to receive their own custom relationship results..
Yes, you and your partner complete your own self-assessment and receive separate results based on your unique answers.
The Gottman Relationship Adviser can help you gain insight into your overall relationship health, friendship and intimacy, romance, sex, and passion, how you manage conflict, your shared meaning, trust, commitment, and more.
You can find a Gottman-trained therapist on The Gottman Referral Network. This Network of experienced clinicians are certified the Gottman Method-based relationship-building techniques and can use your assessments and work with the Adviser or Coaches to help you get on the pathway to a healthy, long-lasting relationship more quickly.
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